Dating can be intimidating, especially for people who have just re-entered the game.
If you are active on any online dating site and match someone who has recently gotten out of a relationship, remain empathetic to their burdens.
There are seven key things to keep in mind when dating someone who has just got out of a relationship:
- Respect and Establish Boundaries
- Put off the Relationship Talk
- Wait to Meet the Family
- Avoid Overthinking Things
- Create a Welcoming Environment
- Be Straightforward
- Know What to Expect
1. Respect and Establish Boundaries
Establishing boundaries is an important part of any new relationship. Boundaries are the only way to lay a sturdy foundation for a healthy future with your dating matches. By setting boundaries, you clearly outline your requirements for the people in your life, romantic or not.
2. Put off the Relationship Talk
Relax and avoid bringing up any serious relationship talk for a bit. That means avoiding making things “official,” putting labels on things, or talking about monogamy for a bit.
A breakup can be considered a critical life event in which temporary (or permanent) trauma leaves the person in a state of vulnerability. Maintaining a healthy distance during this time is critical, so you do not become what people commonly refer to as a “rebound” date.
People use rebound dates as a crutch for getting back on one’s feet. Feelings toward rebounds are lustful and only well-deep.
3. Wait to Meet the Family
Talking about family early on with someone who recently got out of a relationship might intimidate and scare off your potential partner. Many people associate family talk with being in a serious relationship.
Avoid pushing someone out of their comfort zone by prolonging the amount of time you go before meeting the family or bringing up family talk. The first few months of conversation are important for avoiding acknowledging family talk.
Furthermore, you never want your date to form connections when they will not last.
4. Avoid Overthinking Things
Overthinking can be the demise of even the most wonderful relationship. When dating someone who has just gotten out of a relationship (short or long term), overthinking can be especially harmful.
5. Create a Welcoming Environment
The dating scene can be intimidating for someone who has just gotten out of a relationship. It is important to be empathetic and create a welcoming environment for someone who has recently gone through a traumatic event like a breakup.
Dating may be scary but use this opportunity to be adventurous together. Even if you are video dating, there are fun ways to form close and fun relationships.
6. Be Straightforward
Many breakups are messy. Avoid the chaos and be straightforward about the way you feel. If you are not looking for a relationship, this is something you should communicate flat-out.
Communication will create a strong foundation that you can build upon later.
7. Know What to Expect
People who have recently got out of relationships typically have reservations about entering the dating field again for one reason or another.