More often than not we’re aware of red flags for women, but unsurprisingly, men have them too. Not knowing what these red flags are could lead to painful situations like getting ghosted or your partner suddenly losing interest. 

In this article, we will be discussing 6 of the biggest turn-offs for men. Find out some common dating mistakes and how to improve your online dating presence.

Acting dumb

To anyone who thinks that men don’t want you to be smart – think again. Any man who’s dating with good intentions will admire their partner’s intelligence, and actually find it very attractive.

You should value your own intelligence just as much as you should seek to find someone else who does too. If they don’t, then move on.

Excessively using your phone

This is particularly off-putting during the beginning of a relationship or during intimate moments. For example, on a first date. If you give more of your attention to your phone screen rather than to your date, it will instantly give off the impression that you’re not interested – even if this isn’t the case. Not the mention, it’s generally pretty rude.

The same issues can arise during video dating. Sometimes, people find it more difficult to express themselves or to connect to someone over video chat, so it’s important to make yourself fully present in those moments.

Being overly dramatic

In general, men don’t want much involvement in drama and won’t appreciate their partner bringing it into their lives. Life is never completely drama-free – but there’s a difference between actual problems, and turning things into problems.

Complaining and criticizing

Of course, you shouldn’t need to worry about having a bad day, then confiding in your partner about what’s happened. However, it can be very draining for a partner to deal with constant negativity or demands, particularly if it’s aimed at them.

Consistently complaining about your partner, or about things your partner does, will eventually wear them down. It could lead them to feel as though they are not enough or that they are not cared for. Over time this could turn into resentment towards the relationship.

If something is bothering you, try bringing it up in a productive way that will not cause offense or start an argument.


If a man feels that your whole world revolves around you, then is there really any space from him in your life? Boasting, bragging, and generally having a lack of interest in anyone’s needs except your own is very off-putting.

There is nothing wrong with loving who you are, and being proud of the things you’ve achieved – but when expressing these feelings to others, do so with grace.


Honesty is directly related to trust, and trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. Just like women, men don’t want to feel as though they are being played, lied to, or manipulated. It simply comes down to treating your partner with the same respect you’d want to receive from them.

This is also the case in being honest about who you are. Being your true self right from the get-go will help you find a match that’s perfect for you – so don’t hide it.